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Sipwell asked me if I could think of a forum for publishing a note on the subject of “people adding people they don’t to their buddy list”. Or maybe the phenomenon from a wider perspective. Why are we so eager to get to know, or pretend to know, people who are no way near close to us?
Anyway, what better place to discuss this than on the blog?!
I’ve done some thinking about this myself. People have added me as buddy, they ask how I am, want my opinion and generally seem to care. People that don’t know much about me and probably never will.
We try our hardest to gain as much acceptance, comments, photos, stars, remarks, posts or what have you from others in this digital universe we spend so much time in. Strangers. Still, through the wery wide web, distance seem to disappear and people move closer to eachother. Or is it the distance that makes some kind of closeness matter even more?
Or is it just another way of standing out in a crowd? “look at me - I have 3 759 friends. you’ve only got 59. haha”
Anyway, this is Sipwells reflections and thoughts, in his very own words:
I have been fairly active in the game for 1.5 years now and I am still loving it. It is great to see a community evolve and expand and for me personally it is even greater as I can participate in that endeavour. Suggesting things to Powdersnow directly or via his “right hand” Hogweed, managing Forum Admins in a specific way to make the community even stronger… it has become part of my daily life and a ‘hobby gone mad’. Do I mind? Not at all. I believe that every person is entitled to his or her bit of insanity, on the condition it is used in a positive way…
My activity in the game has lead to a certain respect or even prestige within the community. My name is often on the lips of users (as you can see in the forum) and many people seem honoured if I talk to them. You are considered a great personality based on your reputation and the actual position you have in that community. That is in every society or community no different. Football stars are equally respected, as is your local politician. Did you ever sit in a restaurant when a local/regional/national/international pop star entered it? All faces turn to that person and everybody starts whispering “have you seen him/her?”. It is part of our community system and there is nothing wrong with it.
Yet something in this game strikes me as odd. It is one thing to engage with me in the forum and to take me into the wider network you are active in. Some people do need to contact me often and some people do need my help when they are in trouble. Some people appreciate my posts or appreciate the tings I do in general and want to have me on their buddylist. But why do so many ‘unknown’ people add me to their buddylist? Each morning when I enter the Powersoccer site, I have new users adding me to their buddylist, users I never heard of, never replied to something they wrote in the forum or have had any contact with. How does that come? What is the trigger here?
You could say that they want to have a MA in their buddylist to contact him – unfortunately until now as women hardly discover this game in my experience – in cases of need. But why does a Brazilian user or a Pakistani user pick me? Why does an American click on my name and “add buddy”? What makes me – and I suppose many of my colleagues – so different, so ‘important’? Will the person who has an answer on this puzzle please rise?








